Zoe Wilder: Where Body and Brains Meet
Posted at 3:19 PM May 28, 2008

Zoe Wilder is a relative newcomer to the sex nerd scene in New York, and she's got what it takes: she's gorgeous and has no qualms about getting naked for a camera, she's got academic inclinations, and she knows how to have fun.
Naked City editor Audacia Ray quizzed Zoe on the breadth of her professional experience in the world of sex: from dominatrix to erotic model to sex therapist in training.
Audacia Ray:What are the projects you're most excited about working on right now?
Zoe Wilder: I'm currently in graduate school working towards my MSW (Master of Social Work). This past semester I took a Social Welfare Policy course that got me really excited. I spent a great deal of the semester researching the history of prostitution policy in the United States and started to get involved in sex worker rights awareness. My interest in social welfare and advocacy in relation to topics surrounding sex has grown stronger than ever. I've been exploring different ways in which I can direct this energy to make change. In the past few months, my boyfriend and I have thrown several events called SpinSpinNYC. We teamed up with the Harm Reduction Coalition and $pread Magazine to raise money and awareness. Now that the semester is over and I have a little bit of spare time, I've spent it collaborating with different musicians. I've been in the studio with Mikey Beatz laying down vocals on house tracks. I'll also be collaborating with the band Psylab this summer doing improvisational shadow-dancing. In addition to all of this, I'm always on the prowl for the next fun photo shoot.
Three more questions and their answers, plus more photos, after the jump
AR: There are seemingly infinite ways to be employed in sexuality these days. Why are you studying to be a sex therapist? What kind of environment do you hope to work in when you're done with school?
ZW: Several years ago, I was a professional dominatrix. This played a big role in my decision to go back to school to pursue a career in sex therapy. Mostly, my clients would come in for a good ole fashioned whipping, humiliation, and bondage; but other times they would walk in and need someone to open up to, someone to confide in about their failing marriages, past experiences with sexual abuse, struggles with intimacy, etc. Not only did I learn the basics of hog-tying, CBT [cock and ball torture], and cross dressing in the dungeon; but I also learned that I want to be in in this type of helping profession. People feel comfortable expressing sensitive topics to me, and I am comfortable having these sentiments expressed to me and am passionate about exploring these issues. Eventually, I would like to have a private practice and become even more involved in advocacy and policy.
AR: There's a contingent of the new generation of sex therapists like yourself who in addition to being passionate about sex therapy as a profession, are not at all shrinking violets when it comes to their own sexuality. What kind of effect do you think having a public sexual life as a model/exhibitionist will have on your work as a sex therapist?
ZW: Well, there's not much that a client can share with me that will shock me! Many therapists are uncomfortable exploring topics surrounding sex. They are afraid to ask the 'difficult' questions. I think that my experiences as a dominatrix and 
model/exhibitionist will enhance my ability to relate to my clients and help them. Also, I'm very comfortable in my own skin. I've witnessed that my comfort has inspired other people around me to be comfortable, too. I can't help but think this will translate when I'm working one on one with someone.
AR: Many nude models I talk to say that they feel like they are very much a part of the creative process when they work with photographers, they aren't "just" models. Do you agree or disagree with this? Why?
ZW: Oh, most definitely! Whenever I collaborate in any creative endeavor, whether it be modeling, dancing, singing, or event planning, I am an active participant in the creative process. There is a synergy. There's nothing more satisfying than brainstorming and bouncing ideas off another artist, and watching those ideas come together to give birth to something shiny, sparkling, and extraordinary.
Photo credits in order of appearance: Michelle Talich, Scott K, Marcos Rivera


