How To Turn Your Sex Drive Into Success [Porn At Large]
Posted at 11:22 AM Aug 08, 2008
Every week, Naked City expands your pornographic worldview with tales from the far reaches of the earth. Four international pornographers share this space to tell all about the experiences of being porny and making porn outside of the United States.
This week: Canadian and lesbian pornographer Bren Ryder.
On BrenRyder.com I write "How-To" articles on productivity, online porn, and success. But they aren't exactly your typical helpful blog entries. They are autobiographical and occasionally highly personal. I like to access productivity blogs on a regular basis to give me inspiration and teach me how to be more disciplined, more spiritual, live more simply and be successful. They can be somewhat helpful, but really impersonal and disinteresting. This article is another attempt at using the "How-To" genre and misleading titles to tell my story: a story about my sex life.
Good Dyke Porn™ is all about the sex. I make it to show the world the beautiful and unique sex that two women experience together when they truly want to have sex with each other. I'm even in a couple of those videos and I have to say that those sexual encounters were wild. Highly erotic. That's what comes to mind when I think about it: fucking erotic porn. So...
What happens if a pornographer loses her sex drive? Practically speaking on behalf of the business not a whole lot changes. I'm not scheduled to be in any of the scenes and my talent for capturing sexual intimacy and playful erotic fun on camera has little to do with my sex drive. My interest in other's people's sex still produces hot stuff. However, as a pornographer, I feel like there's some kind of image to uphold. Like, if I'm making porn then I must be a horn-dog. I know people wonder about the effect that making porn has on a person's sex drive. Well, when I first started this venture two years ago I was newly single, living free, working out a lot, highly motivated, feeling good, enjoying a few fantastic lovers and I could tell I was desirable to the dykes. I felt it and it felt Good™.
I proceeded to have some of the best sex of my life and set in motion my dream to be a dyke pornographer. Now, two years later, I've spent hundreds of hours in front of the computer with too many junk food laden deadlines, quit my physical labour job, gained about twenty pounds and stopped having sex. Is watching and editing hours of porn too much of a good thing? I feel certain that it is completely unrelated. When I do have the privilege of watching and editing the footage I think, oh ya, sex, I forgot about that. Then, it's quickly forgotten again. So, how does this affect my success as a pornographer? It affects the success of my life.
If I'm not having sex regularly then I'm not experiencing the fullness of life. And, that's gotta change. Tonight, when I piece together the latest scene and see the beautiful orgasms in front of my eyes I will be inspired and truly turned on but that's not what's going to change my life. Here's what will: no more junk food, incorporate a mountain of fruit and vegetables and vitamins into my diet and get back to the gym - running, weight lifting and yoga. The result: no more flabby gut, increased energy, increased sexy hormone levels and best of all SEX. Now that's success. I'm getting wet just thinking about it.
Bren Ryder is the creator of Good Dyke Porn, an independent amateur hard core pornographic video website which proudly features authentic queer women having amazingly hot sex.
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